Ahhh, the infamous holiday made just for couples is approaching – Valentine’s Day!
While many seem to be planning, and preparing for this weekend’s big couples event, Valentine Day, you choke back another tear and try to cover up the pain. We have four days until Valentine’s Day; the coveted day which all couples are honored. They will fill restaurants, and movie theaters; jeweler’s will over staff employees, greeting card manufacturers will make millions of cards, candy makers will box their finest chocolates into multiple sizes of heart shaped boxes, and retailer’s will sell out. As the day approaches many will feel the excitement in anticipation of the gift their loved one will bring them.
Yet, there are also others that have their relationship crumbling around them. The joy that was in their step is now a stumble, and the light of love has darkened.
They are in a relationship, but are unfulfilled. While in their relationship they are made to feel less than, told that conversations with them are difficult, and life was easy before them. They keep the hurts secret from the outside world. They stay hidden from the freedom that being in a true love relationship brings. The laughter, and joy, once shared fades into the background as two lives move deeper into the fork of the road. Some may sit and stare at a Valentines gift that was purchased with love, hope for the future, and joy in anticipation of the look on their spouse, or boyfriend/girlfriend’s, face. All along wondering do I give it to them, put it up, or return it? They pray, try harder, keep hoping and waiting all along thinking things will change. But, they don’t. At least for the better they don’t. In this week of “love” instead of feeling loved and special. You feel alone, and broken hearted. If this is you – I understand.
I know what it’s like to have a relationship begin to crumble, and with each day more and more pieces fall away. You try to glue them back on, yet with each setback the glue breaks free and takes a bigger piece with it. I know what it’s like to chase a lie. To have that relationship where you feel less than. Where the gas tank of hope for a future, to build and share life together moves to empty. Where the lies are revealed over and over until finally – the pixie dust that gave the illusion of glam and glitter fade to gloom and grief.
The question that lies before us when our relationship begins to fade, and crumble, is:
“How long will you … pursue a lie?” Ps. 4:2b
I’m not saying because you may be going through a rough time, not to give it your all. I’m not saying if you are married to get a divorce. What the question poses is: who are you loving more? Who are you giving your focus, and energy to?
God says we are to put Him first.
“You shall have no other gods before me. You shall not make for yourself an idol in the form of anything in heaven above or on the earth beneath or in the waters below. You shall not bow down to them or worship them.” Ex. 20:3-5a
- Are you pursuing a lie by worshiping a relationship that you know is not right?
- Have you put the other person ahead of God?
- Do you try to please them more than pleasing God?
- Have you made them your idol?
If you answered yes to any of those, God asks – “How long.” How long will you continue to do that?
Questions I once had to ask myself, and answers I had to face.
If you are in a relationship that is abusive: physically or mentally seek help immediately. God never calls us to be abused.
As we approach Valentine Day may we turn our hearts to The One that created it:
“For it was You who created my inward parts.” Ps. 139: 13a
He is the One who:
“The LORD your God is among you, a warrior who saves. He will rejoice over you with gladness. He will bring you quietness with His love. He will delight in you with shouts of joy.” Zeph. 3:17 HCSB
“How great is the love the Father has lavished on us, that we should be called children of God! And that is what we are!” 1 Jn. 3:1a NIV
“I myself will tend my sheep and have them lie down, declares the Sovereign LORD. I will search for the lost and bring back the strays. I will bind up the injured and strengthen the weak.” Ez. 34: 15-16a NIV
“He has taken me to the banquet hall, and his banner over me is love.” SS. 2:4 NIV
“For you are a people holy to the LORD your God. The LORD your God has chosen you out of all the peoples on the face of the earth to be his people, his treasured possession.” Dt. 7:6 NIV
As Valentine’s Day approaches lets ask ourselves those hard questions, and face the answers. Answers that my be painful, but ones we need to realize. Answers that may tell us to stop pursuing the lie, and instead pursue our Creator.
May you find your true valentine; The One that waits for you with open arms.
“He is patient with you, not wanting anyone to perish, but everyone to come to repentance.” 2 Pe. 3:9b NIV
This year let us allow Him to be our True Valentine.
©Gentle Whisper Ministries 2015, re-post 2/11/2017 and edited
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